Unexpressed thoughts, feelings and emotions can’t be released until our attention is given to them, so if we ignore the way we feel we can end up becoming depressed or anxious, not realising until it’s too late that we are in the pit of despair. Whereas if we make the effort to do something about our bad feelings when they linger, we may eventually be able to take control of our life and our mind, and not be pushed around so much by the ups and downs of our moods!
The pit of despair is that dark black hole we enter when depression hits, and which dependant upon the intensity of our dark mind, keeps us imprisoned for a period of time ranging from a few days, to many years. It’s our negative thinking which slides us into the pit of despair, and when we eventually find a way to generate it, it is our positive thinking that will stimulate us enough to scramble, climb and force our way out!
However, because of the nature of our emotions, we find it easier to enter the pit of despair than to climb out, so it’s worthwhile understanding a little about how the process works!
On the way down we use…
- I’ll never..
- I can’t..
- It won’t..
To scramble out we need…
- I can try..
- I will..
- It might…
We enter into our pit of despair when we experience frequent episodes where…
- We don’t know how to resolve our issues or problems!
- We are storing old un-addressed anger – stewing in our emotions!
- We are angry with ourself for something we have said or done!
- We are angry with someone else for what they have said or done to us, or another!
We become angry if we repress our emotions when we feel…
- Isolated and alone
Life is presenting many challenges to most people at the moment, and we have to be careful about how we’re using our mind to create our negative/positive moods and our opportunities of the future. So it’s worth learning new ways to cope with our agitation – because as resolving chaos is the nature of life, there’s the strong possibility that there’s always more to come!
When feeling stressed, I use a variety of tools to help calm me down, including Reiki, EFT, visualization, positive self-talk,affirmations, writing, Rescue Remedy, sleep, talking and complementary therapies. But sometimes, try as I may, there is nothing I can do to stop my mind worrying and my mood darkening! So then I just have to remind myself that every day is a new day, life is a transitional journey, I can cope with life, and that life will take care of itself – with or without me!
Regardless of who or what we are, coping with stress is a skill we need to master, if we are to develop the strengths we will need to cope with future changes of the world. So instead of fearing feelings associated to stress, fear and anxiety – which we can feel as physical discomfort, and which lead us to slide so easily into the pit of despair, try to step outside of the futility of the immediate situation you feel caught within. As when we can step into the bigger transitional picture with an acceptance of all that is, knowing that life has its own rule of order that insists that problems become resolved, we can allow our heart to feel optimism and hope, that one day we will feel at peace with ourselves!
And try to remember, if you deal appropriately with your emotions, you’re less likely to fall into the pit of despair!